
Why Are Values Important?
Values drive individual behavior. Your values are like a compass. This compass does not point north, south, east or west. It points to what is right. Every decision you make is guided by this compass. It is imperative that you clearly understand, and can articulate, your values - this articulation is similar to a properly calibrated compass. When you understand your values, you will have the confidence to challenge the status quo based on what you believe. You will be able to make decisions confidently and consistently, and you will be able to explain the reasoning behind your decisions.
People who do not have clearly articulated values, or who have no values at all, are like ships without sails being tossed about on stormy seas, drifting wherever life takes them. These people are not consistent in their decision-making, as they have nothing on which to base their decisions. They just go wherever the wind blows. This can have a disastrous effect on them personally, and on the people around them.
I was involved as a project manager on a large offshore oil and gas drilling and production facility. This facility was being constructed in Ulsan, Korea in Hyundai Heavy Industry's construction facility. This vessel is about three football fields long and about ten stories high. An un-powered vessel, it does not have a rudder.
Korea is susceptible to seasonal typhoons. These are very similar to the hurricanes that are common in North America. During construction of the offshore vessel, Ulsan was hit by a powerful typhoon. The typhoon blew the vessel, its moorings and part of the quayside out to sea. Then the typhoon then blew it back toward shore, where it collided with, and crushed, a berthed freighter. Fortunately for our project, the vessel was only slightly damaged, although the freighter was a write-off.
Unfortunately, this is what happens to individuals who do not have clearly defined values. Without values to securely anchor them and without engines and a rudder to keep them powered and on track, when a storm hits they end up causing a lot of damage to themselves and to sadly to those around them.
Spend some time reflecting on your most important values and record these. Share them with your family and friends. Have them work through the same process and then discuss the values differences. Can you see where and why values based conflicts could arise? Now that your values differences have been identified what can be done to avoid potential conflicts?