
Most of us have heard the expression "The eyes are a window into the soul" and there is a lot of truth in this statement although an observer can never truly know what a person is thinking, going though or what action they plan on taking by just looking into their eyes. I think a better method of understanding a person's soul is to listen to the words that they speak. Now this cannot be a one time event as someone may be going though something that is not typical in their life and because of their immediate situation they may say something that does not truly reflect their soul or character. What is needed is to a get a few sample points with a person to truly understand them.
However, the point stands. Our spoken words are a true reflection of our character, our true selves our inner soul. What we express verbally is coming directly from our thoughts. If we are always negative, our words will reflect this negativity. If our thoughts are generally positive, our words will reflect this state of mind. What we need to understand is that the spoken word has tremendous power in our world. This power can be positive or negative. We can have a tremendous impact on the people we interact with due to the words we speak so we need to ensure that our thoughts are in the proper place.
Thoughts are expressed as words and words have tremendous power, both positive and negative. In order for our words to reflect a positive attitude, our thoughts must be positive.
The words we speak are a reflection of our thoughts and our thoughts are a true reflection of our soul.
So what can we do if the words we are speaking are not predominately positive and we truly want to improve this?
I am not a psychotherapist so I cannot counsel people that have deep emotional or psychiatric problems however, I do know that many of the negative attitudes in the workplace today are coming from people who are frustrated in their current roles. One of the major reasons for frustration in the workplace comes from the fact that these people are not working in a role that takes advantage of their strengths. In fact, many people are working in areas where they have weaknesses and these weaknesses are causing poor performance and stress. This leads to frustration, negative thoughts and consequently negative words.
What is needed is for people to truly understand their Strength Zone and then strive to apply this Strength Zone in every role that they have. In doing this people will begin to experience success, this results in positive thoughts and positive thoughts result in positive words.
You can change the state of your soul! Remember, the words we speak are a true reflection of our soul….does your soul need a tune-up?
Let’s start with the Random House Webster’s Dictionary definition of values:
"The abstract concept of what is right or worthwhile. To consider with respect to worth or importance."
This definition, although articulate, seems rather nebulous. Now consider how Arthur Burk defines values:
"A value is an abstract concept that is embraced at the expense of personal comfort."
This definition suggests that to live in harmony with their values, people are willing to sacrifice their personal comfort. If this is true, these people may even be willing to do things that others do not agree with, so they can stay aligned with their values. But does this definition also suggest that differing values between people, organizations and ethnic groups may actually cause conflict? Is this some great new discovery?
Of course not. As members of the human race, we have recognized for thousands of years that differing values can and do cause conflict. However, if we respect each other properly, differing values don’t have to cause conflict. I would like to propose the following definition of values:
"A value is an abstract concept that a person is willing to embrace at the expense of personal comfort."
Most people will sacrifice their personal comfort for their most important values and it happens often but if we, as a society, are more aware and respectful of others and their values we can reduce the rate and severity of values-based conflict. So why don’t we spend more time trying to understand each other’s values? Why don’t we try to ensure that our values are aligned with our organization’s values? And if alignment is not possible, why don’t we at least try to understand why people react the way they do? Why don’t we build a plan to deal with these differences?
These are interesting questions that each of us really need to give some deep thought. If we could spend some time listening to those around us and understanding their values and building a relationship with them that is based on mutual respect of the differing value systems there would be a lot less conflict in our world.
September 11th, 2001 I was sitting in a bid review meeting in Houston, Texas (about 3500 miles from my home in Calgary, Alberta) when the news of the World Trade center was delivered like a ton of bricks to me via a cell phone call from my wife. This event stirred up many emotions from every person all around the world. The people in the meeting reacted with shock and disbelief and most were driven by their basic, most important values which were security of self and family. Due to this commitment, many people left what they were doing and returned home to be with their families. Outside our meeting, many people across North America were driven by their faith/religious values and spent time praying for the victims and their families. Others were driven by the values of loyalty and commitment to their country and left their homes and relatives and headed for New York to do what they could to help out. Still others (New York fire and police departments) were driven by their value of courage and stepped into harms way to help others in need at the site of the tragedy itself.
Everyone has differing concepts of what they are willing to embrace at the expense of personal comfort. This difference in values is one of the things that makes us, as people, different from each other. It is also important to note that individuals in society must have different values in order for our society to function properly. Can you imagine what would have happened after the events of 9/11 if everyone in the US would have went home to be with their families and not one person went to the site of the tragedy to provide support and assistance? Or if everyone went to the site and no one went home to be with the children and other family members that needed support and comforting?
Values between individuals can be and should be different. However, it is up to us to ensure that these differences in values are viewed positively as well as used positively. Do not fall into the trap of values based conflict.
What are values in the workplace and why are they important?
To answer this we need to start with a definition of corporate values. Corporate values can be defined in much the same way as we defined individual values:
A corporate value is an abstract concept that a corporation is willing to embrace at the expense of corporate comfort.
Essentially, corporations set their values with the expectation that their leaders will model the values and their employees with buy into the value system and use the values as a vehicle to travel towards the company's mission and vision. In doing so, they must ensure that the values they pick are truly the values that will be modeled in every circumstance. Any deviation from these values by the leadership in the company can have serious short term and long term implications.
Essentially the corporation's values are its very foundation.
Companies having shared values that are consistently modeled within the organization results in:
One does not have to look too far to find examples of companies that did not have proper alignment around a value system and paid the price in the marketplace;
Fortunately there are many examples of companies that have built themselves around their values;
According to William C. Taylor and Polly LaBarre in their book Mavericks at Work, companies should use values to help define a corporate purpose because "high minded values can drive cutting edge corporate performance".
They went on to say that "Great companies are built on genuine passion, plus a day to day commitment to great execution. Employees won't feel the passion, and can't maintain the operating discipline, unless they feel good about what the company sells and the values that it stands for."
I recently heard of an excellent example of this from a friend of mine. He told me that they had a client that was calling into their customer support center and was very abrasive and abusive to the staff that he was talking with. As a result there were a number of staff who refused to talk to this client when he called. On one occasion this client called for technical support and was so abusive over the phone that the customer care representative was reduced to tears.
My friend is the head of this customer support group and he told me that his company values their employees and that they state this as one of the company values. When he was made aware of this situation and the fact that it had been going on for some time, he set up a meeting with this abusive client and gave him his money back for his customer support contract and told him that he did not want him as a client any longer.
This is a great example of a company and its leadership modeling the values that they state. Many other companies would value the revenue more than the employees and would try to find ways to keep this abusive client at the expense of their employees and at the expense of their own reputation.
Employees immediately take note when positive actions of the corporation align with the stated corporate values. This provides positive energy and motivation for employees.
William C. Taylor and Polly LaBarre go on to say that ...But they {great companies} understand that what it means to be great is as much about values as virtuosity, as much about what makes people tick {individual's Strength Zone} as how much they know. and that ...the most powerful way to create economic value is to embrace a set of values that goes beyond just amassing power, and that business, at its best, is too exciting, too important, and too much fun to be left to the dead hand of business as usual. (Bracketed text is my insertion.)
John C. Maxwell takes this concept one step further and indicates that in today's high paced, high stress, high stakes world, ONLY companies that are firmly founded on a value system that is properly modeled and adhered to can be successful. He stated;
The only way you can increase speed and stay on course, is everyone knowing and living the company's values. John C. Maxwell
So we can see that it is extremely important for leadership in an organization to always model the values that they state. Failure to do this will results in the employees losing confidence in the organization and its leadership. As Ralph Waldo Emerson says 'Your actions are speaking so loudly, I cannot hear what you are saying".
This alignment around corporate values empowers the employees and the corporation as a whole to drive forward towards the achievement of their goals using an agreed upon and consistent vehicle for their progress - this vehicle is Corporate Values.
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In his book "The Opposable Mind", Roger Martin introduces a concept called an "Integrative Thinker". An Integrative Thinker is a person that strives to face constructively the tension of opposing ideas and generate a creative resolution for the tension in the form of a new idea that contains elements of the opposing ideas but is superior to each. Essentially, an Integrative Thinker is someone who can take two or more opposing views on a particular issue and work with these ideas objectively to come up with a solution that encompasses all views but provides a superior solution that none of the individual views could have provided on their own.
Besides the obvious qualities of a person that are required to make this sort of thinking possible (e.g., open mind, patience, lack of ego tied to their position, etc.), one of the most important qualities required by this individual self-esteem. This person needs to have a high level of self esteem in order to be a strong Integrative Thinker. This role will require some interesting and, quite often, heated conversations between meeting participants as each side explains their idea and states their case. The Integrated Thinker must be able to stand tall in the middle of this and stick to the premise that a better answer exists by integrating the views than in any independent view by itself. It takes a confident person with a high degree of self esteem to mediate and make sense out of a situation like this.
What is the best way to build self esteem? It is by building confidence. What is the best way to build confidence? It is by understanding and working in your Strength Zone! When you understand your areas of strength and begin to adjust your approach to every role you have in life to take advantage of these strengths and leverage them, you will see your success factor increase. When your success in everyday life begins to increase you will begin to realize how much potential that you have and your confidence level will begin to increase. As your confidence level increases, your self esteem will increase.
You will find that as this happens you will have the confidence to take on new activities and roles that you were not confident enough to do in the past. As you do this, leveraging your Strength Zone in every situation, your confidence and self esteem will continue to grow. This is positioning you for being an outstanding Integrative Thinker. Someone who is confident enough to wade into tough situations, evaluate the situation and issues at had and then come up with an integrated solution that takes aspects of all ideas and presents a solution better than any of the individual ideas on their own.
.....and you are able to do this simply because you are living in your Strength Zone!!!!